有哪些簡潔的人生建議?

問題描述:那些很少人告訴你的。問題來源:What are important things and advice to know that people generally aren't told about?
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莫慌~


消費他人的輸出的同時,別忘了自己也要創造。


想到的事情,立馬去執行,別找借口拖延。

執行的時候,別想太多,太多想法只會影響效率。


1、永遠不要表白,男對女也好,女對男也好,因為表白沒有意義,好好享受曖昧的感覺吧,不要試圖急切更近一步,真有可能,一切都會水到渠成。
2、不在人後說他人不是。
3、請養成一些好習慣並長期堅持。
4、待人真誠,平等交流,不卑不亢。

暫時想到這些~


我來說幾個自身的生活體會,不一定是正確的,不一定可以適用每個人,但這些確實是我在生活中的經歷告訴我的:
1,勇敢。我出身教師和農民結合的家庭,這種家庭環境,很難給孩子灌輸無畏勇敢的的思想,從來告訴的都是:不要惹事,要乖,聽話,老老實實的做事。以至於後來我在求學和工作中遇到了很多問題並不是那麼無畏。工作後的第二年,一件事改變了我。讓我變得勇敢起來,不再害怕,不再畏懼很多事,那時候才發現,原來勇敢真的可以給你帶來很多你意想不到的驚喜。
2,誠實。當然我說的誠實是相對的,這世界上沒有一個人活到老而沒撒過一次謊。
3,專註。現實生活中能長久,幾年,十幾年,甚至一生只專註於某一個領域的人鳳毛麟角。專註產生效率,專註讓你的人生高度超過你預期。


1.找回自我,敢於直面自己的第一感受
2.不要有優越感,無論在精神上還是物質上(同理也不要自卑)
3.文明用語,註意措辭(三思而後言)
4.相互尊重,尊重他人的價值觀,尊重他人的選擇
5.要自信,多微笑,享受在於心態,與現狀無關
6.不要低估努力的價值,它不一定讓你成功,但給了你可以選擇的自由
7.最後,不要怕孤獨,叔本華告訴我們,要麼是孤獨,要麼是庸俗。



簡潔是美,復雜不是美(重點是後一句)


勇敢的去追求愛情,但不能沉溺其中,更不能為情所累。 共勉


  • Love hurts, but not as much as not loving.
  • The friendships you nurture will have a greater effect on your life than where you work or what you earn.
  • You are not your job. You are not your bankroll. You are not the sum of your possessions.
  • The company does not love you. It has no heart. You are replaceable. Keep your parachute handy.
  • Few decisions will ever shape your future life more than who you choose to marry. To marry well, you must choose well.
  • Love is a commitment.
  • Believe it or not, passions grow out of your values. Make early, wise choices to value what (and who) is good, trustworthy, and praiseworthy.
  • Integrity preserved is honor won.
  • Rejoice in your health. It fades fast.
  • Find a passion. Pick a hobby, own it: photography, juggling—whatever. Get your 10K hours of perfect practice in early and change your life.
  • Don’t bother comparing yourself to others—this only leads to heartbreak, anger, and disappointment.
  • Most disappointments grow from unmet expectations. Set realistic expectations for yourself, based on your strengths, then strive to exceed them.
  • Don’t drive others to meet expectations they’ve committed to — lead, inspire, and help them do it.
  • Don’t set expectations for others when they haven’t or cannot commit to them.
  • Don’t complain. Either change your situation, learn to cope, or change your perspective.
  • Don’t worry about making big bucks out of the gate, worry first about doing whatever you have to do excellently.
  • Little stuff matters—even in lowly jobs. The boss notices and even if not, your peers and colleagues do.
  • Ultimately, privacy is a myth: God sees everything. The cloud records everything. NSA files everything. So, live transparently and don’t waste useless energy hiding failures.
  • Don’t look down on others because they don’t have what you didn’t earn—your intellect, your beauty, and your culture of birth are undeserved gifts…be humble.
  • Failure is an opportunity: no great man or woman ever achieved significance without great failures to learn from.
  • Never withhold an apology when it’s merited. Deliver it quickly, sincerely, and personally—before resentment festers.
  • You don’t need to nurture old guilt when you’re forgiven. But remembering the shame can help you avoid repeats.
  • Mere belief in anything signifies little more than assent. It’s trust and behavior that reveal where convictions lie.
  • The main thing you need to do quickly is to stop doing things quickly. Trade hurry for calm, confidence, and precision.
  • Everybody needs an editor. Everybody.
  • Get your work done first so you can play without guilt. Even better, make work play and the fun never ends!
  • If you want to develop your passion and gift, stop worrying about the things you do poorly. Go with your strengths!
  • Avoid fights. Seriously. Avoid them like a plague: nobody wins in a fight, even if you walk away unscathed. But when a fight picks you, leave everything on the mat and give it your all. Hold nothing back.
  • If you’re bored, you’re doing it wrong.
  • The skills that will help your career most are the abilities to assimilate, communicate, and persuade. Keep learning.
  • Nothing in this life—no pain, no agony, no failure—compares to the eternal joy of Heaven. Live in light of eternity.
  • Protect your joy. Nothing is easier to lose by over-thinking, overanalyzing, and second-guessing. On the other hand, always consider the long-term consequences of your choices: stupid decisions made in the moment can rob you of years of joy and happiness.
  • Your purpose in life determines how you frame events. You can maintain your joy in the most dire circumstances if you find meaning for your life. Dig deep.
  • It truly matters what you think about. Think well by reading good books, building good, loving relationships, having good conversation, and imitating great people.
  • 轉自Quora
    Rich Tatum’s answer to 20s (age): What are the most difficult things people have to learn in their twenties?


    如果還年輕,還在讀書,就別顧慮太多,去做自己想做的事,但是也不要盲目,做好規劃;
    如果已步入社會,謹慎走好每一步,因為身後有對家庭對他人的責任。


    人生就像一團貓抓線,你可能是貓,也可能是人,甚可能就是一截線,但無論如何你最好有一把刀。

    因為可以把貓宰了。


    轉載一個:
    http://www.businessweek.com/articles/2014-02-06/what-advice-would-you-give-your-30-year-old-self

    What Advice Would You Give Your 30-Year-Old Self?
    By Arianne Cohen February 06, 2014

    Apu Gupta
    38, chief executive officer and co-founder, Curalate

    「I wish I had known that founding a startup was more scary than risky, because I would have done it earlier. Instead, I allowed the fear of failing to drive me into a management consulting career, where I lost time and confidence being in a job I wasn’t great at. Six years later, I finally started my own company and have never felt more stability, creative freedom, and sheer joy in a career.」

    Lee Brian Schrager
    54, founder and director, South Beach Wine & Food Festival

    「I was the owner of a South Beach club called Torpedo and partners with Mickey Rourke at another club called the Spot. I would tell my 30-year-old self to be careful whose butt you’re kicking today, because you may be kissing it tomorrow.」

    Justin Rolls
    35, chief operating officer, OrganicLife

    「At 30, I was just starting to grow my company. At first it is a necessity to do everything yourself, but as you grow, it is a mistake to not take advantage of new resources. The ability to delegate needs to be learned sooner rather than later.」

    Chandrika Krishnamurthy Tandon
    59, chairman,Tandon Capital Associates

    「I was an enthusiastic McKinsey partner commuting between Brazil and New York. I wish I had known that taking time to cultivate inner tranquility was an imperative, not a luxury. Through music and meditation, I would have been able to exude much more grace and keep greater distance between a very grueling work situation and me. I would have redefined perfection: It is giving your best. That is all you can do.」

    Jerry Springer
    69, host, The Jerry Springer Show

    「When I was 30, I had just been appointed mayor of Cincinnati. I wish I’d known that when people say, ‘It’s not personal, it’s just business,’ to never believe them. Every business decision is personal.」

    Kim Kurlanchik
    48, partner, TAO Group

    「I would tell myself to find balance between work and personal life. I was constantly trying to prove myself in a field known for being a boys’ club, working most nights and weekends, and my personal life took a backseat. It wasn’t until almost a decade later, once I met my husband and had a child, that I realized I previously had no balance.」

    Mace Neufeld
    85, producer, Jack Ryan: Shadow Recruit

    「I would tell myself that if I wasn’t in love with what I was doing, to quit then and follow my dream. The road ahead may look daunting, but it surely is better.」

    Cohen is the author of The Sex Diaries Project: What We’re Saying About What We’re Doing (John Wiley & Sons).


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    這個必須答!
    我阿公在我從小就灌輸我「吃飯時,盛飯要正好,寧可少一點不夠再去盛!做人要有原則,別人不來惹你,切勿去挑釁人家,自己犯賤,被人打死也不管!別人上門惹事,絕不能忍,就算把牙齒咬碎,也要還手!」
    這些一直以來是我的人生信條!


    吃一塹長一智,不是肉疼就是肉償。
    ps: 狂妄地說,可以涵蓋以上所有的經驗教訓。


    從一開始就不將就才能有自己徹底接受的喜歡的人生。


    知道自己作為新人而且已經這麼多回答了,這個回答註定會埋沒,但仍舊想說說。

    不要天天都期待愛情、幻想愛情、琢磨愛情,世界上有更多美好的事情,但大多數人都嘗到愛情的美好之後就深陷其中,真正遇到愛的人確實美好但真的屈指可數,大多數人都沉溺在暗戀、單戀
    的死循環中,最後只能在性和文字里尋找到慰籍。

    並且,私以為,美好的愛情從來不是刻意的,而是無意的。過度的期待和幻想只會加深求而不得的苦痛。

    所以,請用力地活,精彩地活吧:)


    看的開,才活的好。
    平和,過硬。
    戰鬥力,習慣。
    痛苦源於想太多,太貪心。
    永遠不要嘗試擺脫孤獨,它就像影子,永遠都在。
    ——————
    90%發生在別人身上的事情對你來說都是沒有意義的。
    不做吃力不討好的事。
    尊重每個人的生活方式。
    ——————
    幹你屁事&幹我屁事。
    如果別人一句話就能刺激到你 那你真的就是太弱了。
    我樂意 ,你隨意 。
    愛情只是電光火石 。
    多說無益。 說太多只會變得很無聊。
    原諒自己以前做過的蠢事,接受自己。
    想要簡單自然 水到渠成的感情。
    人與人要實實在在的接觸 相處 。如果能相處得舒適自在 自然很好。若心有戚戚 便是極好的。
    喜歡一個人 跟他接觸過的喜歡才是實實在在的喜歡 否則只是少女的幻想 寂寞老女人的意淫。
    男人想出軌才正常 區別在於忍不忍得住。
    這本來就是一個真理和偏見並行 險惡和感動並存的社會。
    有意識地提醒自己做該做的事 慢慢養成好習慣 別把時間精力浪費在無謂無聊的小事上。
    做個精簡且精致的人。
    哦,這樣啊,你繼續。(如何才能不輕易被別人影響)
    「怎樣才能活成一個心里有數,還能天天逗逼的人?」我大概想了想答案。
    努力工作,及時行樂。
    別給自己找不痛快。
    一顆總想要依賴的心,是永遠也無法得到自由的。
    ——————
    各取所需這種事用成年人的眼光看待就再正常不過了。
    人與人之間當然還是要保持距離。
    謹言慎行,切勿交淺言深。
    太沉不住氣,太容易被煽動。 沉不住氣是很傻逼 有時候很致命。
    內心最開闊時 便是最自在。


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